Taking The Wedding Back

There is a point in the preparation of any wedding where you want to throw your arms up in the air and just scream "That's it, I'm done." It's the first time in the six or seven months leading up to the wedding where the idea of just running off to Vegas seems like anything but a joke. This is typically around the time where you're debating whether to get a mustard sauce or a honey mustard sauce for your appetizers, and trying to decide whether a titanium ring will clash with cufflinks that the groomsman is going to wear. The thing is that this is an important moment in any wedding: this is the moment where you take a deep breath and realize that a wedding is for the bride and the groom and everyone else, no matter how much they want to input, can just butt out of the equation.

I didn't mean for that last sentence to sound so mean, but having multiple people making decisions on a wedding day will only lead to a lot of drama and even more hurt feelings. Most wedding's run into difficulties when advice is taken by other parties. How do I know this? Because I've gone through it. When I got married to my husband we were young and naïve and decided that we needed the help of our parents to plan our dream wedding. Well, after a few months, we realized that our dream wedding had turned into their dream wedding, with more issues arising from the fact that each parent had a different idea of what exactly a dream wedding should consist of.

There came a point where we found that we needed to make a decision: either take it over ourselves or just be miserable at our own wedding. It's not that the ideas that our parents had were bad, it's just that there were too many of them. We found ourselves having to combine all the ideas into a wedding that began to look increasingly unattractive to us. So with about four months to go until the wedding we decided to take back control and do our own wedding. We hurt a few egos and had to make some tough phone calls, but in the end we were able to put together a wedding that we wanted.

So when you hit that point where you feel like your wedding is skidding away from you, the best decision you can make is to take a step back and look at what you really want in your wedding and what others are making you do. It's one of the smartest things you can do.

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Kimberly Green loves the fact her husband chose one of the new titanium rings for their wedding.

Author (catwomanseven). Submitted on Wed, 28 Jul 2010 Time: 6:21 PM

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